Want to sound more confident? These phrases make you look weak!

Want to sound more confident? These phrases make you look weak!

Kathy and Ross Petras, brother-and-sister co-authors of “Awkord Moments” share some wise adds and deletes to your often-used phrases that will increase your executive presence.

Phrases NOT to say!

  • “For what it’s worth.” Replace with nothing. If it’s not worth saying you would not say it at all. Please.
  • “If you know what I mean.” Replace with nothing. You already know what you mean because you are saying what you mean!
  • “In my opinion.” Replace with nothing. It is your opinion!
  • “Needless to say.” Self-explanatory here. Stop saying this phrase!

Phrases that need a quick fix

❌  Weak: “I think this would”

✅  Strong: “I believe this would”

➜  Tip – Changing “think” to “believe” is a tiny tweak with a huge payoff.

❌  Weak: “I just wanted to touch base”

✅  Strong: “I wanted to touch base”

➜ Tip – delete the word “just”. Sounds apologetic.

❌  Weak: “Sorry”

✅  Strong: “Excuse me”

➜  Tip – Save apologies for when you need to own up for something you’ve done wrong. Use “excuse me” when your grocery cart runs into someone else’s cart, ETC. Kathy and Ross Petras ask, “Why say ‘Sorry to bother you,’ when a simple ‘Excuse me’ is shorter, snappier and less self-deprecating?”

Swap or delete these phrases to convey more executive presence, for what it’s worth.

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3 little phrases with big impact

3 little phrases with big impact

“You have a superpower that you might not know about: the power to make another person glow,” reports Stephanie Harrison, happiness and well-being expert, in a study she conducted.

Her study finds that we underestimate how happy someone feels after recognition.

3 phrases that pack a positive punch

“You are making a difference.” 

Don’t think, “That’s cheesy.”

Do ask yourself, “How can I encourage others in micro or macro ways?”

Examples:

  • “Did you see how that team leader proudly walked out with a huge smile? You are making a difference.”
  • “The money you raised at our silent auction will help fund our museum awareness campaign. You are making a difference.”

“You inspire me.” 

Ask yourself, “Who has inspired me lately?”

Harrison provides this helpful script:

Start with:

  1. “You inspire me …”
  2. Then add the reason why: “… in the way you show up for your team…”
  3. Finally, share the impact it has had: “… and it’s made me think about how I can be more collaborative.”

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Example:

  • “Barbara, you inspire me. You’ve embraced your passion as an artist and now you’re exhibiting at art shows. It makes me think about how I can continue to sharpen and share my passion for speaking.”

“Tell me more about that.”

Disclaimer: It’s one of my favorite phrases that I’ve blogged about before. Saying these words make you a better listener which makes you a better communicator.

Harrison adds, “Being listened to helps people feel safe, supported and acknowledged. One thing that’s guaranteed to make someone’s day: asking them to tell you more about their interests, feelings and experiences.”

To create space for others to open up Harrison suggests:

  1. Find out what is important to them: “What do you do that’s meaningful to you?
  2. Ask them to elaborate on their experience: “What did it feel like when you heard you’d won the deal?”
  3. Invite them to go deeper: “Tell me more about how you interpreted that feedback.”

Double benefits

Emerging from the pandemic might create socially awkward moments. Use these phrases to ease your anxiety and increase your authentic conversational good will with others.

Harrison shows, “There’s a bonus in store for you: It doesn’t just make the other person glow; it ends up making you glow, too.”

It’s a win-win.

#communication   #SpeakForYourself   #KarenCortellReisman   #3SuperpowerPhrases

3 Master communication lessons from Barbara Walters

3 Master communication lessons from Barbara Walters

Barbara Walters won 12 Emmys

The trailblazer of interviewing, who won 12 Emmy awards over a 5-decade career, teaches us 3 master lessons on how to leverage any conversation to your advantage.

Fairness

“Barbara Walters’s superpower was fairness”, writes Matt Zoller Seitz (critic & writer for Vulture and New York). He continues, “Her subjects trusted her to give them as fair a shake as she could, even if she disapproved of what they did, said, or stood for.”

She exemplified an open mind and the ability to listen to the nuance of any situation.

Relaxed ambiance

“Barbara Walters, in my estimation, really has the quality of reaching through to the person,” Mike Wallace said. “She will put the person sufficiently at ease and it’s a remarkable gift.”

Looking at her interviews from every U.S. president and first lady from the Nixons to the Obamas to a wide range of celebrities and sports figures she creates rapport through her content and delivery.

They said yes to her when they wouldn’t say yes to anyone else because they liked the atmosphere Walters created onscreen.

Trust

Trust requires these three components working together: trust in yourself, trust in the process, and do your homework.

Walters nails this triad. And THEN she goes after the tough questions!

Excerpt from a Walters’ interview, “You’re a New York Times best-selling author, you’re an accomplished and celebrated concert pianist, and a three-time Academy Award–winning actor. Why the porn?’”

Bonus Strategy:

Ok – she also plays into the subject’s ego. She usually gave three compliments, and then went in for the kill.

Barbara Walters, who died recently at the age of 93, left a legacy about how to set the stage for a meaningful dialogue.

#communication   #speakforyourself   #KarenCortellReisman   #BarbaraWalters

Public Speaking Craziness – Handling Critical Fumbles

Public Speaking Craziness – Handling Critical Fumbles

Damar Hamlin collapsed on the field in the first quarter of the Buffalo/Cincinnati “Monday Night Football” game. He suffered cardiac arrest and he is now (at time of posting) in critical condition.

Players knelt, cried and prayed. Fans stood up quietly and prayed. Sports commentators showed shock and emotion.

What struck my husband, Jimmy, and me as we watched this terrifying situation unfold:

  • Fact 1: This matchup is considered the biggest regular-season game in the 22-year history of Paycor Stadium.
  • Fumble Fact 1: Priorities can change in an instant.
  • Fact 2: Practice, preparation and performance create positive outcomes. These teams were ready to play.
  • Fumble Fact 2: Real-time trumps real-plans.
  • Fact 3: Two teams play a game and one team wins.
  • Fumble Fact 3: Rules change depending on situational context.

How this traumatic situation relates to you

As speakers and leaders you experience critical fumbles too.

Here are some crisis management guidelines when let’s say … a pandemic strikes, a tornado destroys your building, or an attendee at your meeting faints:

  1. Communicate with your team. All of a sudden the Bills and Bengals were no longer rivals. The coaches conferred. The players from both sides united.
  2. Listen. Get the facts as they unfold.
  3. Follow your mission/value statement. Take the action steps that you’ve already defined for your business.
  4. Have perspective and weigh the options. “Monday Night Football” postponed the game. Damar Hamlin’s health crisis became more important.

In business and life you play the game and you give the presentation you’ve prepared for.

And when those fumbles happen, you stop, prioritize, find perspective, communicate, listen and go in a different direction.

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The biggest mistakes novice speakers make

The biggest mistakes novice speakers make

Even CEOs and veteran presenters commit these presentation skills’ crimes!

COMMUNICATION MISTAKE #1: Misunderstanding audience expectations.

Don’t be the team that works only on presenting your solutions to the client or prospect. Be the group that gathers this intel first:

Where is prospect pain? What makes them tick? What are they good at? Who competes with them? Where can they improve? What defines success for them? How knowledgeable are they about your topic? Experience range?

COMMUNICATION MISTAKE #2: Memorizing your speech.

Don’t commit your speech to memory. Just know how you will start and how you will end.

Do create a fabulous outline. Call us and we’ll share our 8-step ©SFY Presentation Blueprint with you.

Do practice your material out loud and time it.

COMMUNICATION MISTAKE #3: Spending 100% of prep time on creating PowerPoint slides.

Don’t be the speaker that dumps EVERYTHING onto a ppt presentation and then reads the slides. Your visuals should be “visual” and used as support material. You are the main visual.

Exception: When a ppt deck needs to “stand alone” as a takeaway for investors etc.

Avoid these mistakes and keep on speaking. It’s fun, I promise!

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