The biggest mistakes novice speakers make

The biggest mistakes novice speakers make

Even CEOs and veteran presenters commit these presentation skills’ crimes!

COMMUNICATION MISTAKE #1: Misunderstanding audience expectations.

Don’t be the team that works only on presenting your solutions to the client or prospect. Be the group that gathers this intel first:

Where is prospect pain? What makes them tick? What are they good at? Who competes with them? Where can they improve? What defines success for them? How knowledgeable are they about your topic? Experience range?

COMMUNICATION MISTAKE #2: Memorizing your speech.

Don’t commit your speech to memory. Just know how you will start and how you will end.

Do create a fabulous outline. Call us and we’ll share our 8-step ©SFY Presentation Blueprint with you.

Do practice your material out loud and time it.

COMMUNICATION MISTAKE #3: Spending 100% of prep time on creating PowerPoint slides.

Don’t be the speaker that dumps EVERYTHING onto a ppt presentation and then reads the slides. Your visuals should be “visual” and used as support material. You are the main visual.

Exception: When a ppt deck needs to “stand alone” as a takeaway for investors etc.

Avoid these mistakes and keep on speaking. It’s fun, I promise!

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Holiday Gift Guide to Speak with Confidence

Holiday Gift Guide to Speak with Confidence

What should you get yourself in order to speak with confidence?

We @ Speak For Yourself® have curated the best gifts, by category, to help you check this quest off your gift-buying list.

Inexpensive 

A smile, good posture, and effective eye contact cost nothing.

Have you heard the phrase, “Fake it till you make it?” You may feel uncomfortable but you can appear as if you own Manhattan by your facial expression, stance and eyeball connection.

Clothing & Accessories 

Buy clothes you love that fit the group and venue you’re speaking at.

Buy shoes that you can stand in, for hours, that look great. (Good luck.) For women – I’ve seen some fabulous post-pandemic glittery sneakers that have rocked the stage.

Self-care 

Buy yourself a Story Journal. Write down the funny stuff that happens. Keep a story log of events inside and outside your professional world. Then find ways to make these stories relevant when you run your company town halls / strategic retreats / quarterly zoom meetings. You will resonate more with your various audiences, which in turn will increase your confidence.

Tech

Besides the obvious – your computer, auxiliary cords, and remote wireless clicker if you use visuals, also purchase back up batteries, a decent pen, old fashioned note pad, and a thumb drive with your material (even if everything is in the cloud). Having your tech arsenal ready and available will add to your comfort level.

Food & Drink

Some of my clients beg me to agree that a shot of vodka will boost confident communication. No. That won’t work, and your holiday gift list to yourself does not include a trip to your wine store. Here are foods and a great drink that will boost your energy:

  • Some type of protein or a protein shake.
  • Easy food that will not drip onto your clothes like a piece of fruit or nuts.
  •  (I always take a protein bar, a banana and some nuts to my speaking venues to snack on.)
  • Your best drink: room temp water to hydrate your vocal cords.
  • OK –  chocolates are always a good thing to have on hand.

Can you think of other items to add to our holiday Communicate With Confidence gift list?

#communication   #SpeakForYourself   #KarenCortellReisman   #ConfidentCommunicationHolidayGiftList

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The Trick to Getting Better Intel

The Trick to Getting Better Intel

A client bought a new mattress and decided to take part in the mattress company’s focus group about the experience.

“Why did you buy this mattress?”, they asked. Reasonable question! My client answered, “I moved.” What she did not say was that she moved due to a relationship break up.

“How did you feel about the price of the mattress?”, they asked. Reasonable question! My client answered, “It was a fair price.” What she did not say was that she knew someone at the mattress company that extended an employee discount.

You never hear the whole truth.

The unsaid answers that my client did not share would have given more accurate information.

How can you glean more transparent data at exit interviews, strategic meetings, and annual reviews? OR… any day/time of the week?!

Listen between the lines.

The most effective communicators know how to use every tool at their disposal.

  • Ask questions and go three deep. Explore beyond the first answer given.
  • Observe nonverbal behavior. Look at gestures, stance, tone of voice.
  • Have an approachable attitude. Be present and focused on the other.
  • Smile. Always a good idea (but you don’t need to grin like the village idiot).
  • Use good eye contact. Be inclusive and look at everyone if there is more than one person involved.

You may still not hear the whole truth; but you’ll net a more transparent interaction.

#Communication   #SpeakForYourself   #KarenCortellReisman #ListenBetweenTheLines

The Art of Authentic Communication

The Art of Authentic Communication

Linda Lakin + me ◼︎ March, 2022

This post is in memoriam to my courageous, strong, smart, feisty and fabulous friend & colleague, Linda Lakin. She has a lot to teach us.

Here’s an excerpt of a conversation she shared with me during one of her many chemo infusions:

“How are you?”, asks Derrick, the hospital tech, on auto pilot.

Linda answers, “Do you really want to know”?

He stops short and replies, “Tell me how you really are and I’ll tell you what’s going on with me.”

“Fair enough. I don’t feel well and it sucks to be back in treatment getting more chemo. Your turn.” She’s wondering … what could be so challenging for this healthy 22-year old guy?

“I work at this hospital full time and I’m going to nursing school full time and I’m drained, tired and burned out.”

Their conversation goes on. Linda listens and gives some great advice. Derrick listens and sees how he might manage his load without crashing. Linda’s load is lightened by this exchange.

You’ve just witnessed an honest conversation.

Sometimes you want to get to this deeper Linda/Derrick level – but sometimes you don’t… for all kinds of valid reasons.

As leaders in your various industries you have to figure out when to do a deep dive and when to remain in “Gracious Superficial Mode”.

IF you do delve – here are your ground rules:
◼︎ Listen more than you talk.
◼︎ Empathize.
◼︎ Be present.
◼︎ Ask questions.
◼︎ Be nonjudgmental.
◼︎ Don’t be wedded to a specific outcome.
◼︎ Make observational suggestions if asked.

Authentic conversations take time. Hard to do in your crazy busy world, but well worth the effort.

Linda always went for the authentic conversations. And we all learned from her.

❤️ Linda Lakin ❤️ 12.1.58 – 11.5.22 ❤️

#AuthenticCommunication #FightOvarianCancer #LindaLakin

Ask these 3 questions to get what you want

Ask these 3 questions to get what you want

He was “everyone’s favorite rumpled television detective”, writes historian David Fantle about Peter Falk, the star of the 1970’s series Columbo. Falk plays Lieutenant Columbo and the beauty of Columbo was watching how he unraveled the mysteries and crimes.

Columbo’s method

He asks insightful questions in a humble manner.

Relevance to you

A client said to me the other day, “Karen, I use the Columbo Method to negotiate, sell, and diffuse any situation.”

I commented, “I remember Peter Falk wearing his wrinkled raincoat in Columbo and always liked him.”

He said, “Exactly! He solved the crime, and got people to tell him everything. Even the bad guys trusted him… until they lost the game.”

My client explained, “Columbo got the job done by asking three strategic questions. And I use those same questions to diffuse anger, get agreement, get the sale, talk to my teenage daughter …whatever.”

Columbo’s 3 question method

1️⃣  What did you mean by that? (Allows the other person to further explain the situation)
2️⃣  How did you come to that conclusion? Or – What makes you think that way? (This allows you to really get inside the other person’s head)
3️⃣ Have you ever considered __________ Or – Another way to look at this is ___________ and you fill in this blank with your alternative solution.

Ask these 3 questions to get what you want. Good luck in solving your next crime or negotiating your next deal with your board, team or teenage kid.

#communication #SpeakForYourself #KarenCortellReisman #ColumboQuestionMethod

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