3 Master communication lessons from Barbara Walters

3 Master communication lessons from Barbara Walters

Barbara Walters won 12 Emmys

The trailblazer of interviewing, who won 12 Emmy awards over a 5-decade career, teaches us 3 master lessons on how to leverage any conversation to your advantage.

Fairness

“Barbara Walters’s superpower was fairness”, writes Matt Zoller Seitz (critic & writer for Vulture and New York). He continues, “Her subjects trusted her to give them as fair a shake as she could, even if she disapproved of what they did, said, or stood for.”

She exemplified an open mind and the ability to listen to the nuance of any situation.

Relaxed ambiance

“Barbara Walters, in my estimation, really has the quality of reaching through to the person,” Mike Wallace said. “She will put the person sufficiently at ease and it’s a remarkable gift.”

Looking at her interviews from every U.S. president and first lady from the Nixons to the Obamas to a wide range of celebrities and sports figures she creates rapport through her content and delivery.

They said yes to her when they wouldn’t say yes to anyone else because they liked the atmosphere Walters created onscreen.

Trust

Trust requires these three components working together: trust in yourself, trust in the process, and do your homework.

Walters nails this triad. And THEN she goes after the tough questions!

Excerpt from a Walters’ interview, “You’re a New York Times best-selling author, you’re an accomplished and celebrated concert pianist, and a three-time Academy Award–winning actor. Why the porn?’”

Bonus Strategy:

Ok – she also plays into the subject’s ego. She usually gave three compliments, and then went in for the kill.

Barbara Walters, who died recently at the age of 93, left a legacy about how to set the stage for a meaningful dialogue.

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The Trick to Getting Better Intel

The Trick to Getting Better Intel

A client bought a new mattress and decided to take part in the mattress company’s focus group about the experience.

“Why did you buy this mattress?”, they asked. Reasonable question! My client answered, “I moved.” What she did not say was that she moved due to a relationship break up.

“How did you feel about the price of the mattress?”, they asked. Reasonable question! My client answered, “It was a fair price.” What she did not say was that she knew someone at the mattress company that extended an employee discount.

You never hear the whole truth.

The unsaid answers that my client did not share would have given more accurate information.

How can you glean more transparent data at exit interviews, strategic meetings, and annual reviews? OR… any day/time of the week?!

Listen between the lines.

The most effective communicators know how to use every tool at their disposal.

  • Ask questions and go three deep. Explore beyond the first answer given.
  • Observe nonverbal behavior. Look at gestures, stance, tone of voice.
  • Have an approachable attitude. Be present and focused on the other.
  • Smile. Always a good idea (but you don’t need to grin like the village idiot).
  • Use good eye contact. Be inclusive and look at everyone if there is more than one person involved.

You may still not hear the whole truth; but you’ll net a more transparent interaction.

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What’s your top priority when giving a speech?

What’s your top priority when giving a speech?

The Options

Your multiple choice answers include:

  1. Gain the audience’s attention
  2. Establish rapport with your listeners
  3. Add “credibility sprinkles” to increase your “trust index”
  4. Tell your team your ROI – what’s in it for them

Hard to choose. All of the above are crucial for your success as a presenter.

But… one other item goes at the very top.

Karen with Carol Kozloski @ BNSF Railway Workshop

Thank you, BNSF Railway and Carol Kozloski, for modeling that Top Priority Item when I presented my workshop to your BNSF Railway team.

The Answer

Safety. Safety comes first above all other matters. For the first 10 minutes, BEFORE I was introduced, Carol shared safety protocol precautions.

The Protocol

1st – Carol shared where the exits were and where we would go if we were to be evacuated.

2nd – Carol appointed a CPR certified attendee that would be ready to provide CPR if necessary.

3rd – Carol appointed someone else to be the 911 phone caller if needed. NOTE: if you don’t appoint this one person, then everyone might be calling 911 creating more chaos.

4th – Later on, in our ½ day program, the CPR appointee had to leave and another person was designated.

The Outcome

Fortunately we did not need to use these safety measures. But I’ve never felt safer.

Emergencies I’ve experienced during other speaking engagements:

  • An audience member faints, falling on the floor needing medical assistance.
  • Fire alarms going off.
  • Power outages.

Your responsibility as the presenter

My client showed the way for a safe and successful morning. However, in my 25+ years of speaking all over the place, this was my first time to observe excellent safety precautions shared in advance.

Your responsibility as the speaker/leader (when you don’t have the brilliance of my BNSF Railway client) is to coordinate with your meeting organizer (if there is one) OR do your own Safety Protocol Plan prior to your event using the list above. Because YOU are the one on the stage with the mic.

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Word Choices That Really Matter

Word Choices That Really Matter

You might say, “It’s just a word!” And I’ll respond, “I’m in the little things mean a lot business, and what you say to others AND yourself makes a difference.

Two words can mean the same thing. Yet one word choice brings out the worst and the other creates positive energy.

Words to avoid and why

Negative word: nervous vs Positive word: excited

In a past blog about handling public speaking anxiety I share a study on changing your self-talk from “I’m nervous” to “I’m excited”. This study proves that this slight tweak will improve your speaking confidence. After all, your body does the same adrenaline dance for both “nervous” and “excited”; but your head game goes in a better direction using “excited”.

Negative word: fee vs Positive word: investment

You are in sales! You may be the CEO, or the General Counsel, or the CFO and your sales team is in another department… but you are always selling. Rather than talk about “fees” for your clients, use the word “investment”. My clients hear the following phrase: “Your project investment is xx.” They never hear the word, “fee”.

Other positive vs negative word connotation examples

  • Easygoing vs Lazy
  • Confident vs Arrogant
  • Value driven vs Cheap
  • Curious vs Nosy
  • Dedicated vs Stubborn

Bonus negative/positive word choice

Holocaust survivor & Texan of the Year in 2019, Max Glauben (of blessed memory), inspired this blog. His recent obituary shares that he helped co-found the Dallas Holocaust Museum, originally housed in the basement of the Jewish Community Center (JCC).

I was on the Board of the Dallas Holocaust Museum for 16 years and I hated one of the words in the above paragraph. And everyone on the board knew it!

Don’t say “basement”, say “lower level”!

So, for the record, the Dallas Holocaust Museum, now a beautiful & meaningful stand-alone museum in Dallas’ historic West End, originated on the lower level of the JCC.

Can you add to this word choice list?

Think about your word choices and respective connotations. What words enhance or detract from your message? Your word choice makes a difference to your listeners and YOU.

Author: Karen Cortell Reisman is Founder of Speak For Yourself®, a communication consulting firm, and the author of 2 books on how to communicate. She lives in Dallas, Texas and is value driven (not cheap)

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3 More Best Practices for Hybrid Meetings

3 More Best Practices for Hybrid Meetings

Hybrid meetings “are easy to do poorly and hard to do well.” Harvard Business Review

Because you preside over and/or attend these meetings all the time we’ve blogged about 3 Best Practices for Hybrid Meetings. Here are three more Hybrid Meeting Engagement Tips to maximize your return.

Hybrid Meeting Best Practice #4 – Engage both in-person and remote participants

Ask yourself, “What do your remote participants need to see?” Answers include:

  • Any PowerPoint visuals
  • Faces of in-room attendees
  • Content created during the meeting from flipcharts to whiteboards
  • Shared presentations

How to make this happen? Try NOT to have your in-person group connect in on zoom. They will soon realize they could just WFH… Work From Home. Rather… read on!

Dr. Shirley Davis, Global Workforce Expert

Hybrid Meeting Best Practice #5 – Have a strong facilitator 

Dr. Shirley Davis did just that at our recent National Speakers Association – N. TX Meeting. She spoke to the assembled crowd, engaging all in-person attendees. Yet, periodically, she asked the Virtual Concierge to share what was going on in the Chat Room. She asked for the visual of the Zoom Room to be shown on our screen. The virtual group felt included, got their questions answered and their comments heard.

Deborah Gardner, CMP also suggests, “Learn to work all camera angles. More cameras will be involved at meetings to help the virtual audience capture a wider experience.”  (Speaker Magazine July/August 2021)

Hybrid Meeting Best Practice #6 – Design meetings for all attendees

  • When you begin your meeting or presentation, you acknowledge all of your group … especially those online.
  • When you ask your in-person participants to do an activity, that is when you direct all of your attention to your virtual audience to work/talk specifically to them.
  • When you hear feedback from your group, you’ll be inclusive – getting comments from both your in-person and online community.
  • When your live audience goes on break, you have another opportunity to connect with your virtual attendees.

As this pandemic continues to morph you will resume some in-person gatherings. Even so, hybrid meetings will become a permanent part of how your business will function.

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3 Best Practices for Hybrid Meetings

3 Best Practices for Hybrid Meetings

“Hybrid is not just a car anymore,” says Linda Swindling, J.D., CSP, a professional speaker and negotiation expert.

Welcome to the new and permanent world of hybrid meetings.

recent McKinsey survey suggests that 90% of organizations will adopt some combination of remote and on-site work as they emerge from Covid restrictions.*

According to Harvard Business Review (HBR) – “Hybrid meetings are vastly more complex than meeting in-person or virtually. They are easy to do poorly and hard to do well.

You will preside or attend these hybrid meetings. Here are three ways to up your game.

Hybrid Meeting Best Practice #1 – Make sure your audio rocks

You spend time making sure your video shows the best you and best background and best lighting. All well intentioned & important. BUT audio is king! If we can’t hear you and your attendees your meeting will fail. Invest in some good mics. We suggest the Blue Yeti mic (around $100).

Hybrid Meeting Best Practice #2 – Have a “Virtual Concierge”

Assign the responsibilities for all things technical to a virtual concierge. Sarah Michel, CSP writes in July/Aug 2021 Speaker Magazine, “Meet with this person to go over how you want to engage with your remote audience.” Have this person facilitate the chat room as well.

Hybrid Meeting Best Practice #3 – Do a tech check

Q: Why does everything work during your rehearsal and then sometimes NOT work in real time?

A: It happens. HOWEVER, without getting to the hybrid venue early and doing your tech checklist, you have a much higher chance for insanity. Note: “hybrid venue” may be your office or a hotel/We-Work suite/conference room, etc. Even in your own office we suggest a tech run-through.

Stay tuned for three more best practices on hybrid meetings to maximize your return.

*Source: https://hbr.org/2021/06/what-it-takes-to-run-a-great-hybrid-meeting

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